Well, if you made it through the first four years K- 3 without being overly involved give yourself a giant pat on the back.  If not, then let’s try it again.

This phase becomes quite more interesting emotionally and possibly is the most important developmental phase for a child when it comes to learning.

Here’s when people tend to cluster into two groups (a) those who like school (b) those who don’t.

There will be problems during these grade levels.  If there aren’t any problems, then that’s an indication of even bigger issue.

For the most part children mirror their parents behavior during these ages.

This is followed by mimicking peers as they start to expand that socialization with other children.

When I first started tutoring, I worked with hundreds of children in this age range and it is quite rewarding.

Here are the things to pay attention to…

  1. Is the behavior you’re trying to correct from you, or the other parent?
  2. Are you really encouraging your child to explore?
  3. Are you setting them up to win, or fail?

This is where the trap of reward for doing what we want comes into play.

Yes, some of the things they do will annoy us.  Some because they remind us of the parts of ourselves we’d like to change.  Others because they remind us of the things we tolerate, deny or try to ignore connected to the other parent.

The main thing here is to encourage them to form their own opinions on things.  Not just to go along with everything you say and do.  The reason for this is to create an awareness that they don’t need to act out in order to get your attention.